You know I’m a fan of sex. I think about it more often than I breathe. And globally I don’t think you can have too much sex, because it’s like basketball. It’s a cool activity that you can enjoy alone as well as with a team. You wouldn’t refuse to play basketball if you were unexpectedly offered it, would you? It’s the same story with sex.
There’s just one thing: when you’ve been in a relationship for a long time, you know each other’s preferences well, you understand how to give your girlfriend pleasure. But when you find yourself in bed with someone you’ve never slept with before, sex instead of fun runs the risk of total failure. Here’s what you need to know to make sure that doesn’t happen.
1. Prepare Properly
Before you go to any party and meet and fuck beautiful girl , don’t forget to clean up your house. You should always be prepared for the fact that you won’t be coming back alone. Put a couple of fresh towels in the nightstand next to the bed. Take care of clean bedding and, if you’re sleeping alone, bring at least one more pillow. We’re not encouraging you to turn your bedroom into a newly opened spa, but your date should be comfortable. And most importantly, don’t forget the condoms. This is probably the first thing you should take care of at all.
2. Don’t make it hard to communicate.
The beauty of casual sex is that it’s casual and non-serious. So your communication should be appropriate. You don’t need to tell the girl about your difficult childhood and school problems. Just get her and yourself a cocktail and talk about music or TV shows. Show a funny video of your dog or something. Don’t get too deep into psychoanalysis, you definitely don’t want to risk ruining it.
3. Ask questions afterwards.
The time to get to know each other will come only if you decide to sleep together again. Then you will really have something to discuss. Personal boundaries and preferences, for example. In “Friendship Sex,” Mila Kunis and Justin Timberlake do it in the first fifteen seconds of their first sex. You don’t need that kind of rush. Even after you’ve slept together and realize you wouldn’t mind doing it again, ask if your partner would like to continue having sex without commitment. If she doesn’t mind, set rules that you both will follow.
4. Don’t get creative.
Imagine that this is the first time you’ve decided to make bouillabaisse. In this case, you won’t be experimenting too much with the spices, right? You are already not sure about the result, and an excess of saffron or basil runs the risk of damaging the soup much more than the common table salt. This principle also applies to casual sex - choose well-trodden paths, and not to get into the wilds. Of course, you can offer your girlfriend to have sex in the car, if you’ve been dreaming about it for a long time. But you don’t have to insist that she end up under the ceiling instead of the chandelier. Casual sex is a great way to have fun. So don’t get yourself into too much trouble.
5. Make sure you’re on the same page about what’s going on.
What do regular and casual sex have in common? It has to be consensual. Warn the girl you are planning to sleep with that the night spent with you does not guarantee any further communication. Otherwise, suddenly in the morning she will be the biggest disappointment of her life. And yes, if you are going to sleep with a friend or good acquaintance, be sure to discuss after sex how you plan to communicate in the future.
6. Don’t get too close.
You know how the perfect casual sex should end? Right after you cum, you hastily pull up your pants and jump out the window (even if you’re on the fifth floor). Try to avoid sweet talk and hugs after sex. And especially don’t stay up until the morning to have breakfast together. Any time spent together breeds affection. Not notice how you’ll start sending her messages saying good night, and there and to congratulations on Valentine’s Day nearby. If you do not mind this development, please. But does casual sex really mean that?
7. Do not be attracted to your partner.
Generally speaking, this is the main rule of casual sex. In general, you should be as indifferent as possible to the person you sleep with. You should not care what kind of lingerie she is wearing, who she hangs out with, and how she lives. Do not go to her Instagram hourly, do not advertise what happened between you. She is not your girlfriend, and if you are willing to drive an extra five miles to pick her up from the store - things are clearly out of control. If you’ve decided to have non-committal sex, enjoy it, and don’t look for more reasons to worry.